Whether you live in a community where your neighbors are in close proximity or an area where the nearest residence is a great distance away, being a “good neighbor” may look a little different for everyone. However, a few tenants apply to all.
According to Myron Mayberry, executive director of the Neighborhood Alliance of Central Oklahoma (NACOK), a good neighbor is someone who is friendly, helpful, trusting and respectful.
“Good neighbors know the names and pertinent contact information of their neighbors,” says Mayberry. “My perspective has always been built on the principle to love your neighbor as yourself. It is a simple, yet complicated first step to build great communities.”
Mayberry goes on to say that “friendly neighbors are kind to current neighbors and welcoming to new ones.” He also notes there may be quiet and unassuming folks who wish to be involved in the community but may not want to be social friends. His advice? Give space and respect their wishes.
Another good idea to protect your neighborhood is to organize or join a group that is specifically composed of individuals living in your area.
According to their website, Tulsa Crime Stoppers is a program of the Crime Prevention Network, Inc. and is Tulsa’s only nonprofit dedicated solely to public safety. Part of this group’s crime prevention suggestions is forming an alliance such as Alert Neighbors, a program provided to engage neighborhoods in discussions about crime and public safety.
The program instills effective collaboration and communication within neighborhoods to prevent crime and help fulfill a neighborhood’s needs for security, and decreased incidents of crime are frequently reported in neighborhoods which participate in such alert programs. The website further states the sense of community formed by this kind of program often serves as a catalyst for neighborhoods to thrive and curate cohesiveness.
An Alert Neighbors program helps inform residents regarding how to secure their homes, how to be safer in their residences and while out among their neighbors, and how to recognize and report suspicious activity. The Alert Neighbors program results in effective communication between neighbors and fosters improved relations between the community and local law enforcement officials.
Treating others with respect – an effort we should all strive for – includes honoring personal boundaries, but is especially necessary with the individuals with whom we share physical space.
“Being respectful involves maintaining tidiness, understanding limitations and adhering to community rules,” explains Mayberry. “Trusting neighbors have their neighbors’ best interests at heart. They also keep their word and follow through when asked to do something.”
One last piece of advice from
Mayberry?
“Providing your neighbor with your information is a great way to keep in touch and start the foundation of a strong relationship,” Mayberry says.
Good Neighbor Tips:
• Pay attention to how much noise you make.
• Join in with efforts to keep the neighborhood clean.
• Have pets? Be responsible, keep them secured and clean up their messes.
• Curb appeal is important to everyone. Take pride in your home’s appearance.
• Employ tact while discussing issues.
