R Bar & Grill
Like any fabulous femme fatale, R Bar changes when the sun goes down. By night, slinky and seductive, she draws crowds of svelte young things dressed in fashionable black. They come for the spare, elegant, yet welcoming, ambiance: burnished wood, stucco walls of earthy sienna, exposed brick and gleaming granite. The comprehensive beer, wine and liquor selection is also a draw. It offers hard-to-find gems such as Booker’s, Chartreuse and Johnnie Walker Blue, along with a tempting selection of German, Belgian and local microbrews on tap, all at reasonable prices. By day, quiet and restrained, R still has her charms. The lure then is hearty yet superbly prepared food.
The sleek and stylish denizens of the night don’t order the big entrees. They know that the irresistible temptation to gorge would play havoc with their waistlines. (Delicious small plates, sandwiches and salads are available for them.) How could anyone leave even a single bite uneaten of the thick and juicy pork chop served with an impossibly rich cherry bordelaise sauce? Or the unctuously tender short ribs braised in ale? Or the chicken and waffles with rosemary-accented maple syrup and a juicy slab of bacon? Chef Trevor Tack, formerly executive chef at SoChey and Main Street Tavern, is proud of his food. He plans to introduce a lineup of elaborate daily specials. And when he does, that nighttime crowd will be skinny no more.
3421 S. Peoria, Tulsa. 918.724.555
The Motivator
At 12 years old, Sheryl Lovelady began piano lessons. Six months later, she was offered up as a suitable replacement for her church’s ill pianist. With guts only a child can muster and little training, she found herself on the piano bench at her Southern Baptist church playing hymns for Sunday service.
“Each week I would learn a new set of songs and that’s what we would sing in church on Sunday,” she says, amazed herself at the pressure of the task.
Lovelady, a veteran campaign manager, public opinion strategist and former communications director for the City of Tulsa, has made a career of calculating and surmounting odds. She’s an adrenaline junkie drawn to a good challenge to get her fix and wants to create new addicts.
“We need more women to step up and impact the policies that affect them,” Lovelady says.
She ticks off alarming statistics. Oklahoma is the third worst state for women to live in based on politics, economics, education and health. The state ranks 49th in the nation for the proportion of women serving in the state legislature. And women are incarcerated at a higher rate in Oklahoma than anywhere else in the industrialized world.
A forecast Lovelady saw while working at a political consulting and strategy firm projected the women-to-men ratio in the state legislature would not reach parity at the current rate until the year 3013.
“We have to pick up the pace. I’m not that patient,” says Lovelady, who now offices in the same building where Ada Lois Sipuel Fisher attended the University of Oklahoma Law school after fighting all the way to the Supreme Court to gain admission as both the first black and first female student at the college.
As director of the Women’s Leadership Initiative at the Carl Albert Congressional Research and Studies Center at OU, Lovelady works to show women that policy can be impacted significantly without fighting to the nation’s highest court.
“The starting point for policy is boards and commissions. Serving at the local level can really impact change because you are closest to the people,” she says.
She challenges women to talk to their mayor and get involved. Opportunities exist at all levels and public service does not always mean partisan politics.
The Women’s Leadership Initiative coordinates the strongest National Education for Women’s (NEW) Leadership program in the country. Lovelady engages women in public services, such as Mary Fallin, Jari Askins and Rita Aragon to work directly with 300 of the top undergraduate women from the state during a five-day, in-residence program.
Other programs like The Appointment Project (TAP) and Pipeline to Politics Project inform women about affecting policy and demystify common perceptions women hold about politics.
“Women win office as frequently as men. They just don’t run as much,” Lovelady says.
The political landscape, she says, looks negative and uneven to women. Because of this, women don’t get involved.
“When women are at the table, the dialogue changes,” she says.
While passionate about her causes, Lovelady is grounded. She brings fun to everything she does and takes time to stop and genuinely relish the small things, an example learned from her son with autism.
“We brag on each other all day. In real life we don’t do that enough,” she says.
She never misses the opportunity to learn from anyone or anything. After two decades of successful campaign management, she is back at graduate school – she says to learn how to do communications correctly.
The Bridge Builder
The National Conference of Christians and Jews (NCCJ) was founded in 1927 by a prominent group of Christians and Jews with a mission of fighting bias, bigotry and racism. At its height, the NCCJ boasted 65 offices nationwide, including ones in Tulsa and Oklahoma City. In 2004, the national office began experiencing financial problems and closing offices. In 2005, under the leadership of president Ginny Creveling, the Tulsa office separated from the national organization to form its own, independent organization. On May 1, 2005, the Oklahoma Conference for Community and Justice – now known as the Oklahoma Center for Community and Justice (OCCJ) – was formed. Nancy Day is the executive director, and has been with the organization for more than three decades.
I wasn’t really seeking a career in (social justice). I had grown up in Tulsa, lived away for10 years and moved back in 1980. I was looking for a job, and a friend knew about an opening at NCCJ and thought it might be a good fit. Thirty-one years later, I’m still here. I didn’t have anything in particular in my background that would have led me to this job, but I think they saw something in me. I was not familiar with the organization when I found out about the job, but I’ve learned so much and had many opportunities to get to know some of the finest people in the community and state; these are opportunities I don’t believe I would have had without this job.
The most important thing we do at OCCJ is bring people together across that which divides them and try to help people learn to live together with deep differences in race, gender and socioeconomics. We’re always trying to build bridges between groups. Over the years, we have come to be seen as an honest broker in the community.
Almost everything we do is educational. At OCCJ, we feel that when people are fearful of “the other,” it is many times because they are ignorant; they just don’t know the other. Educating them about people who are different from themselves is the best way to dispel those fears and myths and stereotypes that divide people. We also do a lot of collaborative programs with other organizations. Then there are those that are solely OCCJ programs, like Camp Anytown, Different and the Same, Teen Trialogue and Youth Interfaith Tour.
Some days I am encouraged by our progress; I think back 30 years ago when maybe we wouldn’t have been having daily conversations with our Muslim neighbors, for example, or our Hispanic neighbors. The next day, I may be very discouraged when I read about groups that are not able to get along together, or those who are victims of discrimination or even hate crimes. The best news would be if there was not a need for an organization like OCCJ. I don’t see that happening, unfortunately, but we’ll never give up.
What We're Eating – April 2012
Steak
Dooley’s Angus Inn
Whether it’s a birthday, anniversary or just a Monday, steak is the quintessential dish of celebration. At Dooley’s, it’s a celebration seven days a week as Chef Dooley serves the choicest cuts of beef to swooning customers. From filets to rib eyes – only served from rare to medium; don’t even dream of asking for a well-done rib eye – the steaks are served with delicious sides and sautéed onions, mushrooms and peppers, upon request. Perhaps Dooley’s most legendary dish, the Southern Fried Ribeye is hand-battered and served with cream gravy; it’s certainly a culinary creation to behold. 201 S. Main St., Broken Arrow. www.angusinn.net
Farmer’s Omelette
Phill’s Diner
Tucked away in an unassuming storefront, Phill’s has been churning out delicious breakfast staples for years. Classic breakfasts like eggs and bacon, biscuits and gravy and pancakes can often be seen in heaping helpings on patrons’ plates. Lunch specials are equally popular and generous, with chicken fried steak, patty melts and Phill’s Famous Boneless Chicken among favorites. But the thing to try first at Phill’s is the breakfast, and we recommend the Farmer’s Omelette: a three-egg omelet filled with onions, green peppers, tomatoes and cheese. Served with hash browns and toast or a biscuit and gravy, it’s an other-worldly morning meal. 3310 E. 32nd St., Tulsa. 918.742.4563
Smoothies
Lemon Tree Nutrition Lounge
The term “smoothie” has come to represent almost any number of ingredients blended together to make a drink. Smoothies used to be synonymous with health, with fruits and vegetables, with nutrition; these days, however, one can get a smoothie that packs a caloric punch on par with a double cheeseburger and fries. Perhaps that’s why a smoothie from Lemon Tree Nutrition Lounge is such a breath of fresh air. With flavors like Butterfinger, Banana Cream Pie and Orange Julius, each smoothie is only 230 calories and will leave you feeling rejuvenated instead of logy. 10600 S. Pennsylvania Ave., Oklahoma City. 405.378.8223



















